Gary Choate May-June 2013

Learning to walk with God May 2013

     Dear friends and family, once again I am late getting this letter out. I hope you will forgive me and read it anyway. Sometime back I had a request from a young lady who asked me to write about the responsibilities of a man in a relationship. It seems that this young lady has had some experience with men who do not know how to treat a lady. Unfortunately, I believe our society is more than ever turning young men out into the world who are ill equipped to take on the responsibilities in a serious relationship.
      In preparing to write this letter, I asked for some help from my wife Debbie and my daughter Sunny. I asked them to write down what they would consider a perfect man to be. His character traits, his looks, everything. I figured if they would do that for me I would understand better what a middle aged mature woman thought a perfect man was. I also could have had a similar look through younger eyes and no doubt a different point of view. As you have probable figured out, my request was denied. In truth, I'm not sure that either one of them was capable of telUng me what their ideal of a perfect man is. Which brings us to at least part of the problems we seem to be facing in our relationships. If we are not sure what we want, how are we ever going to find it? This applies to both men and women. Our society says it is alright to have casual sex, to live together outside of marriage, to have multiple partners, etc. This however is not the formula for a perfect relationship. The relationships that start by and practice these lifestyles are doomed to fail.
      Let me illustrate my point. If you were having an affair with a married man and that man later left his wife for you, the chances are very high that he will prove to be unfaithful to you as well. So why are people so surprised when their relationships that were made in hell fail? They have bought into the world's deception. That is, sex is love and the more sex you have with as many partners as you choose, the more loved you will feel. I think that is enough about why so many relationships fail. Now let me tell you how to have a successful relationship. It has to begin the way God intended it to be. One man and one woman. Gen 2:7 >And the lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. v.18 >And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. v.22 >And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. v.24 >Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. v.25 >And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
      The marriage covenant between a man and woman was instituted by God and was meant to be a blessing. Any sexually active relationships outside of marriage is a sin in the eyes of God.
      The next thing Iwant you to look fo_r having a successful relationship is the scriptures that tell you women to respect your husbands. Eph 5:22 >Wives,  submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. v.23 > For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.
      Now I'm not trying to offend you ladies, but if you want a blessed relationship, learn to respect your husbands. Ican only think of two responses a man has with a disrespectful wife. That is fight or flight. There may be more. If you have a habit of disrespecting your husband, you might be experiencing an angry man whom can't seem to please or a man who has very little to say to you, that is if he stays around at all.  ladies, God doesn't say to respect your husbands only and only if he does everything to your liking. That is probably never going to happen. Ido believe that when we obey God that we reap the blessings from doing so. Speaking from a man's perspective Ican say that when my wife shows me respect it makes me
want to do things that will please her.
Now for you men. You are not off the hook. Eph 5:25 > Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.
      Real love can be expressed in different ways. Ihave talked with men who have said they would lay down their life for their wives. Maybe they would, maybe they wouldn't. The same man who seems so willing to die for his wife is unwilling to take out the trash, mow the yard, do the dishes, or maybe wash a load of clothes. Let's get real gentlemen, if you're not willing to give up a few minutes of your day to show your love to your wife through your actions, then I seriously doubt your willingness to die for her. The world says sex is love. God says it is our actions that demonstrate our love for one another.

      Some men say that "I would show my wife more love if she would just do this...this...or this." God commands all husbands to love their wives aggappi style. That means without conditions.
      There is one more aspect of relationships Iwant to talk about. That is your relationship with the lord. In the beginning God created. He created us to have a relationship with him. If that relationship comes first in your life, then I think you have a greater probability of successful relationships in marriage. If you are struggling, stop what you are doing, dose your eyes, and ask Jesus to be the Lord of your life. Acknowledge Him as the Son of God and ask for forgiveness. Let Jesus show you the way.
Until next time, your friend and brother in Christ.

For more info or comments Call Gary or Debbie Choate
{405) 941-3975 or write
P.O. Box 218 Sasakwa, OK 74867      
Pastor Gary Choate Sasakwa First Baptist Church



Learning to walk with God June 2013

     Dear friends and family, This letter is going to explain how you can be victorious against impossible odds. We all face trials of some kind. Maybe it is financial, maybe it is physical, just maybe it has something to do with a relationship in your life. Whatever the case may be I believe you will find this letter helpful.
     I want to begin by telling you the story of a man named Gideon. His story can be found in Judges chapters 6, 7, and 8 in the bible.
     The first thing you will see in this story is that the nation of Israel (God's chosen people) had once again turned their backs on God and started worshipping false gods. God removed His protection and delivered Israel into the hands of the Midianites for seven years. It gets pretty bad and finally the people cried out to God to deliver them. Doesn't it kind of make you wonder why they
waited seven year to ask for God's help. Maybe it is because they knew if God was going to help them, they were going to have to change their ways.
Jn chapter six and verse eleven an angel of the Lord appeared to a man
named Gideon. The angel told Gideon that God had chosen him to save Israel from the Midianites. Gideon did what I think we should all do when faced with impossible odds. He wanted to make sure that the message he received really was from God. Chapter six and verse nineteen, Gideon wanted a sign to be sure. He asked the angel to wait while he went in and prepared a present for him. He prepared meat, cakes, and broth. The angel told him to put it on a rock where a fire rose up and consumed it. That is a pretty powerful sign. There are folks today who ask God for signs so they know what to do. Only problem is they try to help Him. Example, they might say, "Lord if I wake up in the morning and it is raining, then I'll know you want me to stay home and not go to work." The problem is they just watched the weather forecast which said there is 100% chance of rain in the morning. That is not trusting in God.
Back to the story. God gave Gideon a chore to do. Partly I believe to test his
obedience, but also I think to let Israel know that if they wanted His help, they would have to stop worshipping false gods.
      God told Gideon to tear down the alter of Baal and the grove by it. He was also to sacrifice a burnt offering to God. He did this at night because he feared the men of the city who worshipped Baal. The next day those city boys found out what Gideon had done and they showed up at Gideon's dad's house (Joash}. They were so mad they wanted to kill Gideon, but his dad (Joash) said, "if Baal is a God let him deal with Gideon.
      Later on in chapter seven God sends Gideon up against the Midianites army whose number was as the sands of the sea. Gideon had thirty two thousand men and God said,, "Gideon, that's too many." Judges 7:2 >And the Lord said unto Gideon, The people that are with thee are too many for me to give the
Medianites into their hands, lest Israel vaunt themselves against me, saying, mine
own hand hath saved me.
      God had already tested Gideon's obedience before, but obedience isn't a onetime thing. God expects us to obey Him every time. So for Gideon who was already facing impossible odds1 they were about to get worse. Judges 7:3 > Now therefore go to, proclaim in the ears of the people, saying, Whosoever is fearful and afraid, let him return and depart early from mount Gilead. And there returned of the people twenty and two thousand; and there remained ten thousand.
      Now you might be starting to think that God is just being mean to Gideon. That is not the case. God wanted Gideon and all of Israel to know who was responsible for giving them victory over their enemies. So you can see that ten thousand is still too many. When God is working with or through someone, sometimes He takes away the things that we depend upon. This can be a very difficult process but so rewarding when you truly learn to trust in God.
Through the process of elimination, Gideon had three hundred good ole
boys with him when he attacked the Midianites. God who is all knowing knew that Gideon was struggling with fear as I believe we all do when facing such enormous odds. So to encourage him, God sent Gideon and his servant down to the enemy camp to hear what was being said.
     Judges 7:13 >And when Gideon was come, behold, there was a man that told a dream unto his fellow, and said, Behold, I dreamed a dream, and, lo, a cake of barley bread tumbled into the host of Midian, and came unto a tent, and smote it that it fell, and overturned it, that the tent lay along. v.14 >And his fellow answered and said, This is nothing else save the sword of Gideon the son of Joash, a man of Israel: for into his hand hath God delivered Midian, and all the host.

      l don't know about you, but if I was Gideon, I would find those words very encouraging. If we put our trust in God, if we obey God, then during those times when we become faint hearted God will encourage us and lift us up. Something else you might think about. Every trial you go through, someone else is involved. Even if it is a health issue, it involves your family. While God is helping us conquer the trials in our life, you can be sure that He is working on and through those who are somehow connected to our trials.
     Gideon and his three hundred men had been given specific orders to follow during their attack on the Midianites. I'm not going to take the time to write
down all the details, I'll let you open your bible and read it yourself. Ido want to say that if Gideon and his men hadn't fully obeyed God in every detail, they would not have had a victory.
      Today, there are some who will do part of what God tells them to do, but not all, and then they wonder why the enemy is kicking their back pockets. Victory when faced with impossible odds can only be accomplished by fully trusting and obeying God 100%.
Until next time, your friend and brother in Christ.
         Pastor Gary Choate Sasakwa First Baptist Church

For more info or comments Call Gary or Debbie Choate
(405) 941-3975 or write
P.O. Box 218 Sasakwa, Ok 74867


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